Is Your Illness a Big “Drama” or a Drama Stopper?

A reader of Body Odyssey: Lessons from the Bones and Belly wrote this week that a friend gave her the book three years ago “when I was laid up for 65 days with a herniated disc. Good reading and page 192 became my mantra: my illness was a drama for others in my life more than it was for me. I was missing that until I read it in your book. Thanks for sharing yourself in print.”What the reader who wrote to me was referring to was a section that described how everything becomes more simplified and less stressful in a way when our busy lives are on hold because of illness. Read more

Five Ways to Reduce Stress

Your body carries your mental and emotional stress. It also carries the secrets for stress relief. Here are five ways to reveal these secrets and create more ease for yourself when stress is mounting during your day. Read more

Strong Women Share Stories

I recently received an email from a woman named Mary that reminded me how heavy the load is for so many caregivers and what commitment and strength it takes to give and give and give:

“Hi Pat,

I received the book I think on Friday. Thank you so much for mailing it to me.
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Are You in Love with Everything?

It’s easier to be in love with everything than with just a few choice things. If I see everything through the eyes of love–I mean the adoring “you can do no wrong” kind of love, then nothing can ruin my day. Everything makes me happy.

This simple concept became clear to me this morning. Read more

Smile While You Can

I had a TIA (also called a mini-stroke) last month. My mind suddenly was not able to track information, and I was unable to move my limbs or speak as I usually can. It was a very odd sensation to attempt to reach for the phone and not have my hands move into action. And I was alarmed when the sounds that came out of my mouth were nothing like what was on my mind. As odd and frightening as all this was — fortunately it only lasted about an hour — what seemed the strangest was when the ER doctor would ask me if I could smile — and I couldn’t. How could this be possible, I wondered. How could I not have the ability to smile? Read more

Why Try So Hard? Let’s Play Instead

What is this thing called stress that seems to plague us?Here’s a simple definition: It’s the feeling we get when we want something we’re not getting. We want to get to an appointment and the traffic is stalled so we know we’ll be late — STRESS! We want our partner to listen to us lovingly and instead we’re getting advice or criticism — STRESS! We have a big dream for our future and we don’t see a way to get there — STRESS!So what do most of us do when we feel stress? We try harder. We try to force our way through the traffic to get somewhere on time. We speak more adamantly or pleadingly, trying to convince our partner to LISTEN! We work really, really hard to get ahead. Read more

An Amazing Story

I regularly get emails from people who have found the messages in my books to be life-transforming. One I received this week touched me so much I have to share it with you. Please take a look.

Listen to Your Own Voice

Your voice tells others a great deal about you. It can also offer you helpful clues about your state of mind if you listen closely.When your emotions are intense, that’s an especially good time to tune in to your vocal quality. Read more

Feeling Tense?

Oh, how often tension kicks in—over what seems like nothing sometimes. You wake up in the morning, and before you’re out of bed, your shoulders feel tense. You read a piece of mail and a headache comes on. Thirty seconds into the evening newscast, your jaws tighten. Read more

We’re All Innocent

I spent some time with a man who was dying recently. Gathered around him were his adult children from two marriages. As they took care of him in his final weeks and prepared for his death, they wanted desperately to receive from their father the one thing most of them had never heard-a few words that would say that he loved and appreciated them. Some of them even hoped for a moment of large grace where he would acknowledge and apologize for what an abusive and negligent father he had been. It never happened. Read more